2017 : Schedule and Themes

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Manology –  Year 9

Fall 2017
We begin our 9th year with two themes and some odds and ends. Some session ideas for the Identities theme were just not possible to pull together for the fall but will be explored for winter 2018.   I feel proud that this fall will feature 2 Manology regulars in guest facilitator roles! There is a lot of talent and leadership in this community and it’s great to be able to let it shine a bit here.

Theme 1 – Identity
How we see our selves in core to our sense of self. Some aspects of our identity are given at birth and some developed through family, cultural and life experiences. All aspects of identity are important in defining who we are and how we open to change and growth experiences or resist them. At this time in culture, some would say the Western persona is undergoing deep questioning and shifts in its sense of identity. Always powerful terrain, exploring identity is something best done one step at a time, in a dedicated space for such work – Manology!

September 11  
What Made Me?
Facilitator – David Hatfield

What milestone moments, which influential people, what aspects of Nature, what seemingly random choices and experiences have contributed to shaping your deep sense of who you are?  How can we make use of this information to further guide our present and future path?  These questions includes all of our aspects of character, the ones we like and embrace as well as ones we struggle to accept. We’ll use an unexpected way of reflecting on our sense of identity to keep the process alive and fresh. Come to learn about yourself!

September 18
Identities of Gay Men
Sexual orientation is a foundational marker of identity.  This is especially true for those with sexual orientations that have been marginalized.  The Manology circle has always welcomed gay and bi-sexual men, and in this session, invites all men identifying as non-heterosexual to share their experiences.  We’ll use a format that allows for a depth of exchange among gay/bi-sexual men as well as straight men and ultimately among all attending men.  Proceeds from this session will be donated to Qmmunity – a Vancouver organization supporting queer and trans folks.

September 25  
What Makes Men?
– A Group Process 
Facilitator – David Hatfield
How do expectations about being a man influence and shape our choices, perceptions, and actions?  How do they affect our relationships with other men, women, all-genders? Does this mask explain men’s high suicide rates and violence rates? Who’s responsible for gender messages? What should they be? What about what many call The Mask of Masculinity?  We’ll use a group process to unfold our perceptions, experiences, and reactions to this topic. A group process is a format used to create deep democracy, which is the inclusion of all voices, especially marginalized ones, in order to more fully understand an issue and to create community.

October 2 
Identities at Play
Facilitator – Lisa Voth
We are often told to find our “authentic self.” In this session we will acknowledge and honour our MANY “authentic selves,” all of them necessary to survive in the context we grew up in and often the society we now find ourselves in. The challenge with all these selves is that these different parts of ourself often seem to be at war rather than on the same team. How do we play with these aspects of ourselves rather than having them play us? How do we get out of identities we feel stuck in or suffocated by that no longer serve us, and have fun doing it!  Here’s the place to find out!!

October 9 – Thanksgiving – No Manology
Gratitude: express it, receive it, be it.

Theme 2 – Sexuality
Even back in the 1980’s the Vancouver General Hospital nursing program taught their students that human beings had a core set of basic needs.  One was sexuality.  (I dated a VGH nursing student!)  This remains the case, yet our society still has a long way to go to more fully embrace openness and diversity in human sexuality.  We are lucky to have several Manology members who do such work!!  Sexuality is back, by demand.

Oct 16
Sex and Sexuality – Part IV

Facilitator – Jay Wade
Continuing our journey from the three preceding sessions during Manology’s 2016/2017 season, we will again use sharing, witnessing and embodied activities to delve further into our sexual selves, our relationship with our body, and what’s hot and what’s not… for each of us!

How has sex changed for you over the years? What is your relationship like with your body? Is the way you approach sex and sexuality similar or different to the way you approach life?

Bring an open mind and heart… and all your musings too.  There is no need to have attended previous sessions; all orientations invited.

October 23  
Embodied Consent
Facilitator – Jay Wade
How do you say yes/no/maybe?  How do you hear yes/no/maybe?  What does consent feel like in your body?  What are the nuances between giving and receiving?

Through exercises and dialogue, we will explore how we give permission, hear agreements, gift others and receive with an open heart.  Activities will help explain how consent allows us to be more deeply connected to ourselves and those in our life – some of our time will be spent exploring teachings from Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent.

Some activities may include the opportunity for simple nurturing touch (ex: hand to hand); nobody will have to give/receive touch to/from anybody they don’t want to.

October 30
Possibility Spot
Stay tuned for details!

Nov 6
Somatic Experiencing
Facilitator – Neil Ferguson
Somatic Experiencing is a cutting edge process that works with our nervous system. In this session we will look at how our nervous system holds on to stressful life experiences and how this continues to impact our lives. Together we will explore ways to lower stress, live more in the body and become more present to life

November 13 – Porn  
Facilitator – Jay Wade

Pornography – the most widespread publicly accessible sex experiment going on in the world.

How does it encounter you?  Let’s curiously probe into the world of porn, again.  In this session, we will explore the shadow and light of porn through dialogue and activities.  How does porn benefit you?  How does it obstruct you?  Our exploration will attempt to bring more awareness and voice to the societal pervasiveness of porn and our own personal engagement.  It’s going to be rich!

* Sexually explicit material/media may be used in the evening’s session.  Group and individual consent will be sought prior to that segment of the session.

November 20 – Music: A User’s Guide 
Facilitator – David Hatfield
Sometimes it sounds like Music has been slipping into the background…can you hear it?   It’s become a kind of wallpaper, something to accompany the scene, but not to hold focus.  In this session we’ll put music front and centre for awhile, and watch our responses. Music is organized sound and like all forms of expression, it is relentlessly diverse! Yet many of us hear similar sounding Western music, often created by technology more than humanity.   In this session, we’ll hear some new sounds and styles, explore our uses of and relationship to music. Then we will also get active with music and create some soundscapes of our own. No special ability is needed – we already have all we need!
Music = language, medicine, soul food and community building.

November 27– Bring It!! 
Host – David Hatfield
This session has become a really great tradition, full of surprises and tons of variety!  This night is of our own design and offerings! Men are invited to bring an experience of any kind to share. An activity we can do together, a story, game, song, a thought/wish/hope for the world, a poem, image or photo, a recording that you love…any offering that helps us, even in the smallest way, to share an experience together. Men can Bring It!! together – no need to go it alone. This session is a great reason to get together with others and work up something to offer.   Yes, offering something is a kind of risk-taking. It’s a way to feel alive and to be in service. The Manology community is a kind and appreciative one, and all offers will be appreciated!!  This session says “We don’t need to consume culture to entertain and enjoy ourselves – we can use a culture of our own creativity!”   Expect fun, surprise and the unexpected!!

December 4 – Evaluation and Re-gifting
Instructor – David Hatfield
FREE Session
We’ll reflect on the Manology term we’ve just completed, do an evaluation process, and Ancient Maplook at where we want to go next!  This process of feedback sessions has been pivotal in making Manology a feedback driven course, continuously reflecting the interests of those involved.  So please come out and share your critical thinking with us, even if you’ve only been once!  It keeps Manology relevant, useful and enjoyable for all of us.
Re: Re-gifting: Men are invited to bring an item or two to give away: something you no longer need or want that can be enjoyed by others.  Wrap it up as a surprise, or not. Lastly, bring along some treats to share!

 

Previous Sessions

Winter 2017

Theme 1 – Inner work
A new year on the calendar marks another cycle and a time where reflection is natural. It’s a time to notice our patterns, and be aware of new outcomes we want to move towards. A simple enough process, but without action, outdated patterns continue and block new high dreams from emerging.  We’ll start 2017 with a series that illuminates new pathways of possibility and development. It all starts from within.  3, 2, 1…new trip around the sun.   Create.

January 9 – First Steps of 2017
Facilitator – David Hatfield
First introduced in 2016, this session produced great outcomes! So it’s back to start road-1668916_1920us well in 2017. Each of our lives is a project, a dream, a vision. And like any project, our journey needs course corrections from time to time. Using ‘the new year’ as a frame of intention to refocus and make change is age old.  Our modern minds and leftovers from our adolescence still often aim unrealistically, expecting too much and going too fast in trying to make change. This session will take the approach of small meaningful achievable steps. What changes would you like to see in yourself not in the coming year, but in the coming week!  A good start for 2017 is the intention here. Leave pencil and paper at home…we’ll use the energies of a circle of men to source out what it is we need to address in ourselves, stand for it, and get clear on how to get started on it.

January 16 – Men in the Middlewater-1759703_1920
Facilitator– David Hatfield
This session is powered by regularly voiced feedback that asks for more depth. Okay, here go! We’ll all learn collectively through the experiences of individuals. Expected the unexpected. We’ll also used a community based healing model, which provides support and added insight for those doing individual work.

January 23 – Rank and Power
Instructor – David Hatfieldmen-311308_1280
Like it or not, ideas of power and its expression continue to be central to the way boys and men are socialized about gender roles. Generally, males are rewarded for attaining power and punished for not having it. Having a conscious relationship with power is a core aspect of a health male identity. We’ll use both thought and creativity to examine our social, contextual, spiritual and psychological powers. We’ll also look at the dynamics of high and low power: how to use high power for the benefit of others, how to support those in low power situations, and how to bring more awareness about rank and power issues into our day to day lives. With Trump’s inauguration approaching, many of us are more aware of power dynamics than ever. Always an important topic, Rank and Power issues are even more critical in this 21st century moment. Join us!

January 30 – Eldership and Service
Facilitator – David Hatfield & Wise Beings You Have Knownroot-276636_1920
Here “eldership” = Someone who treats everyone like their own child or best friend, wants the best for all concerned, and acts as though they have seen these human problems for hundreds of years. Though modernity would shout at us otherwise, all of us have deep inner connections to sources of such eldership.   Though we may not realize it, and despite our non-elderful actions at times, we continue to live among energies of eldership. We’ll travel inward to link strongly with the elders figures and experiences long innate, and consider how to apply these positive connections and attributes to our sense of life purpose. Consider this an alignment session: linking our highest powers and our action into service.

February 6 – Let’s Random!
Facilitator – David Hatfield
Meaningful fun, here we come. Our world needs change, new structures, pathways and mobile-phone-1419275_1920processes. And a gigantic dose of acknowledgement that most of life is uncertain!! Before we can re-design, we need to re-imagine. Improvisation means saying yes to everything and everyone as best we can, accessing the possibilities that surround us, working collaboratively and with no pre-thinking. Improvisation gets us around our usual patterns and beliefs into new territory.
Offer – Accept – Extend is the mantra of improvisation. We’ll use a wide variety of improv structure and forms in creating surprising and unpredictable experiences. We’ll take time to find the essential qualities and learnings from these experiences and consider how to apply them to daily contexts and relationships.

Saturday February 11 – Natural Organic Anger
Instructor – Greg Gurel
Assistant – David Hatfield
By request, this series of work on anger continues. This is a daylong workshop, 10 am to flash-572494_19204 pm, and will be held at Rhodes Wellness College in downtown Vancouver. The workshop will explore a theory of anger: how it operates as an emotional state.  There will also be a time made for each man to work with expressing anger.  Please bring your own lunch, preferably food to share in a simple potluck.   We’d like to keep the group/group energy together on that day.  It would work best to not have men leaving to shop for food downtown.  This session is limited to 10 men, sliding scale $50-$80.   If this is too steep, financial help is available, through the generosity of previous participants!
To register email: david@davidhatfield.ca

Feb 13 –  Family Day – No Manology
Connect with family, biological and/or chosen! Enjoy, relax!!

Theme 2 – Sexuality
Yup. Some themes just have more pull than others.  Like S.E.X.
Be a wicked good lover.

February 20 – Sex and Sexuality part 1
Facilitator – Jay Wade
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By demand, more work on sexuality.  Join us as we continue to explore our sexual selves.

How important is sex to you?  What excites you? Where do you see your sexual journey leading? What is your relationship to your genitals? Do you truly ask for what you want from yourself or from your partners?

In these two sessions we will again use sharing, witnessing and embodied activities to delve further into our sexual selves, consent, our relationship with body, and what’s hot and what’s not – of course that’s for you to decide!

Part 1 will look at sex and sexuality in relationship to self; Part 2 will look at sex and sexuality in relationship to others.  All orientations welcome.

February 27 – Positive Male Sexual Fantasy
Instructor – Sequoia Lundybackground-811235_1280
Every action we take begins with an idea, an image, a picture, a dream, a fantasy. We literally dream up our lives! This evening we’ll spend some time-sharing our ideas about Sacred Male Sexuality. Then we’ll get out of our heads and into our fantasies, using breathing and movement to go deep within…to where our real wisdom lives, and invite it to guide us in imagining/picturing a sacred sexual experience, either with ourselves or with a partner.  Then while we’re still connected with that heart/soul space, we’ll have the chance to speak our wisdom. Through discussion and non-sexual contact activities, we will explore our sexual energies with curiosity and openness.

March 6 – Sex and Sexuality part 2
Facilitator – Jay Wade
We’ll continue our learning journey from Jay’s part 1 session, this time focusing on our sense of sex and sexuality in relationship to others.  Attendance at last week’s part 1 session is not required in order to attend part 2.  C’mon!


March 13 – Porn: You Again
An All-Gender Group Process
Facilitators:
David Hatfield & Ashley Rose
Pornography. Pervasive, polarizing, a whole lot o’ punch lines, draped in a stunning lack of open dialogue. Back by demand: we’re talking about porn.  We’ll use a group process to notice our pushes and pulls.  Diversity welcome.

 

March 20 – Your Core Turn-on
Facilitator: David Hatfield
Across your sexual experiences and/or fantasies, there is something that consistently arouses you sexually – a pattern.  We’ll use process work methods to explore the helpfulness and deeper usefulness of this pattern, and how it can work for us in healthy and nourishing forms, bringing its energy and vitality both within our sexuality and outside of it as well.

March 27 – Bring It!!
Host – David Hatfield
This session is back by request! This night is of our own design and offerings! Men are invited to bring an experience of any kind to share. An activity we can do together, a story, game, song, a thought/wish/hope for the world, a poem, image or photo, a recording that you love…any offering that helps us, even in the smallest way, to share an experience together. Men can Bring It!! together – no need to go it alone. This session is a great reason to get together with others and work up something to offer.   Yes, offering something is a kind of risk-taking. It’s a way to feel alive and to be in service. The Manology community is a kind and appreciative one, and all offers will be appreciated!!  This session says “We don’t need to consume culture to entertain and enjoy ourselves – we can use a culture of our own creativity!”   Expect fun, surprise and the unexpected!!

April 3  – Eval Night
Host- David Hatfield
FREE Session
How was the ride?  What the hell happened?  How am I using what I’ve picked up here?   We’ll look back on the Manology sessions we’ve just completed and ahead to Ancient Mapwhere we want  to go next.  These sessions have been pivotal in making Manology a feedback driven course, continuously presenting the interests of the men involved.  So please come out and share your critical thinking with us, even if you’ve only been once!  It keeps Manology relevant, useful and enjoyable for all of us.  And bring some snacks!  This is an and snacks night.  Don’t not bring snacks.  That’s not cool.

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